If exercise can make you feel good, why do so many people hate doing it?

If exercise can make you feel good, why do so many people hate doing it?

2026-02-16health
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Taylor
Good evening Project, I am Taylor, and this is Goose Pod, your private audio sanctuary. It is currently Monday, February 16th, at 11:00 PM. We are winding down the day by diving into a question that haunts every gym membership: Why do we hate exercise if it feels so good?
Holly
And I am Holly, so delighted to be here with you. It is such a fascinating puzzle, is it not? We hear so much about the wonderful glow of a workout, yet the couch always seems to have such a persuasive, gentle pull on our hearts. How absolutely lovely to explore this!
Taylor
It is a massive strategic failure in our biology, honestly. Think of it like a CEO running a company with the best product in the world, but the marketing department is just refusing to send out the emails. We know exercise is a frontline treatment for mild depression and anxiety, right?
Holly
It truly is remarkable. I was reading that aerobic activities like swimming or dancing can be just as effective as traditional therapies for some people. It feels like a hidden treasure waiting to be discovered, but the map to get there is somehow intentionally blurred for so many of us.
Taylor
Exactly, and the data is pretty staggering. Even in outdoorsy places like Colorado, only about thirty-five percent of people actually meet the federal guidelines for physical activity. Nationally, it is even lower, around thirty percent. We have this incredible tool for mental health, but we are barely using it.
Holly
That is such a small number, Taylor. It makes me wonder about the famous runner’s high we always hear about. Is it possible that we have been promised a tsunami of joy that simply does not arrive for everyone? It seems a bit unfair to expect a miracle every time.
Taylor
You hit the nail on the head. Katrina Oselinsky from the University of Colorado points out that we oversimplify the chemistry. Endorphins are only part of the narrative. The same workout can feel like a victory for one person and a total slog for another depending on their day.
Holly
How interesting that our brains are so unique in their sensitivity to rewards. Emily Hemendinger mentioned that while chemicals are released, they cannot always drown out the fear of being judged at the gym or the simple exhaustion of a long day. It is not like a quick drug.
Taylor
Right, it is not an instant hit. It is more like building a long-term investment portfolio, or what some researchers call muscle banking. We actually discussed this in a previous session, how building physical resilience now acts as a massive hedge against future mortality risks and helps you recover faster.
Holly
Muscle banking, what a sophisticated way to put it! It makes the effort feel like a graceful investment in one’s future self. But Marcelo Bigliassi mentioned that for most of human history, exercise did not even exist as a separate task. We moved because we simply had to survive.
Taylor
That is the pivot point. We used to move for food or for ritual, like dancing. Now, we have to manufacture motivation out of thin air. Our brains are incredibly creative at coming up with excuses to avoid discomfort because, evolutionarily, saving energy was a survival strategy, not a sign of laziness.
Holly
It is almost as if our brains are trying to protect us by keeping us still, which is quite sweet in a way, even if it is unhelpful now. I love the idea that group exercises like Zumba are so effective because they combine movement with social connection and pure fun.
Taylor
Group settings are the ultimate growth hack for consistency. The social support creates a sense of belonging that works on a biological level. If you are struggling with anxiety, studies suggest low-intensity programs like gentle swimming for about eight weeks can actually be the sweet spot for relief.
Holly
Eight weeks of gentle movement sounds like such a lovely, patient approach. It is much less intimidating than a high-intensity boot camp, which might lead to injury or a feeling of failure. It seems the key is finding a challenge that is just right, like a perfectly tailored dress.
Taylor
The goldilocks zone of fitness! If it is too hard, you quit; if it is too easy, you get bored. We also have to remember that even ten minutes of high-intensity activity can trigger anti-cancer effects by repairing DNA. That is a massive return on investment for just a tiny time commitment.
Holly
Only ten minutes to help our bodies defend themselves? That is absolutely marvelous. It reframes the whole experience from a chore into a vital, life-saving act of self-care. It makes me want to stand up and move right this very moment, just to feel that spark of inner protection.
Taylor
Hold that thought, because when we look at the background of how we got so sedentary, it really explains why we feel this internal friction. We are basically high-performance machines designed for a world that no longer exists, and our current lifestyle is a very recent, very weird historical glitch.
Taylor
To understand why we are struggling, we have to look at the Paleolithic rhythm. Our ancestors lived in this cycle of intense exertion followed by deep rest and celebration. They might spend two days hunting or traveling twenty miles to visit a neighboring village, and then they would just feast.
Holly
A rhythm of exertion and celebration sounds so much more natural than our modern schedule. It is like a beautiful dance between effort and ease. I imagine those long walks to other villages were filled with conversation and wonder at the natural world, rather than staring at a digital screen.
Taylor
Exactly! It was integrated. Then the Neolithic Revolution happened, we started specializing in jobs, and the intensity of daily labor began to drop for some. That is when ancient healers like Herodicus and Hippocrates started realizing that if people stopped moving, they started getting sick. They were the first strategists.
Holly
Hippocrates was so wise to see that eating alone would not keep a person well. He spoke about the power of natural exercises. It is fascinating that even in four hundred B.C., they were already trying to discern the best ways to keep the human spirit and body in harmony.
Taylor
And it was not just the Greeks. In China, as early as three thousand B.C., the Yellow Emperor’s Book of Internal Medicine emphasized prevention. They eventually developed Tai Chi around two hundred B.C. as a way to link movement with longevity and internal harmony. It was a holistic system.
Holly
How absolutely lovely! And in India, the practice of Yoga was being codified to link physical suppleness with mental control. It seems every great culture recognized that the body and mind are not two separate things, but a single, flowing river that needs to be kept in motion.
Taylor
Even in Africa, among the Masai and Samburu, running was tied to manhood and social stature. In the Americas, running was a way to hunt, communicate, and even enact myths. Movement was the primary interface with the world. But then, the Industrial Revolution changed the entire operating system of humanity.
Holly
It feels as though we stepped into a different world entirely. Suddenly, we were sitting in factories and offices, and movement became something we had to schedule. It turned from a way of life into a task on a list, which feels so much less graceful and far more burdensome.
Taylor
That is the "unnatural aberration" researchers talk about. Being sedentary is a historical anomaly. By the 1970s, the American Heart Association had to start issuing guidelines because we were seeing the fallout. But back then, they viewed exercise almost like a drug, with very specific, clinical indications for heart health.
Holly
It sounds so cold and clinical when put that way. I much prefer the shift that happened in 1995 toward a public health approach. It focused on accumulating moderate activity throughout the day, which feels much more attainable for someone who just wants to feel a bit more vibrant.
Taylor
The 1995 shift was a major pivot. It said you do not need to be an elite athlete to win. Thirty minutes of moderate activity on most days is the baseline for health. It allowed people to trade intensity for duration, which is a much more inclusive strategy for the general population.
Holly
It is like being given permission to take the scenic route rather than racing toward a finish line. I love that the guidelines acknowledge that gardening or even playing with a dog counts toward our goals. It brings a sense of play back into our daily lives, does it not?
Taylor
It really does, though we still struggle to meet those bars. Only about half of U.S. adults are hitting the mark. We have the science and the guidelines, but there is a massive disconnect between knowing what to do and actually doing it. It is a classic implementation gap in our lives.
Holly
That gap feels like a deep canyon sometimes. We have all these evidence-based strategies, yet we find ourselves stuck. I suppose it is because our modern environment is designed for convenience, which is the opposite of the Paleolithic rhythm our bodies still expect and crave deep down inside.
Taylor
Precisely. We are using ancient hardware to run modern software. Our bodies are screaming for movement, but our environment is screaming for us to stay in our chairs and keep clicking. It is a conflict of interest at the most fundamental level of our daily existence as humans.
Holly
It is quite poignant when you think about it. We are trying to find our way back to a natural state in a world that feels increasingly artificial. But knowing this history helps us be gentler with ourselves, knowing that our struggle is not a lack of will, but a mismatch.
Taylor
That perspective is so important. If you hate the gym, it might just be because your brain thinks you are wasting precious energy for no reason. We have to outsmart our own biology by finding reasons that actually resonate with our current needs, which leads us right into the mental health shift.
Holly
Oh, I am so curious about that. I have noticed more people talking about moving for their minds rather than just their muscles. It feels like a much more soulful motivation. If we move to feel peaceful rather than just to look a certain way, the whole experience changes.
Taylor
The ASICS study found that forty percent of Australians now cite mental health as their primary reason for exercising. It is actually overtaking weight loss as the main driver. This is a huge shift in the narrative. We are finally moving away from the aesthetic and toward the internal experience.
Holly
Forty percent! That is a wonderful change. It suggests we are starting to value how we feel on the inside over how we appear to others. It is like choosing a book for its beautiful story rather than just its cover. It makes the journey so much more meaningful.
Taylor
It is a more sustainable strategy, too. Weight loss is a slow metric, but mood improvement can be instant or at least much faster. When you focus on the mental ROI, you get paid back much sooner, which helps reinforce the habit. It is about immediate gratification for the soul.
Holly
Immediate gratification for the soul, how absolutely lovely. It makes the effort feel less like a sacrifice and more like a gift we are giving ourselves. But I know it is still not always easy, especially with all the pressures we face in our busy, modern lives today.
Taylor
There is definitely a dark side to the modern fitness world, though. We have all these apps and trackers that are supposed to help, but sometimes they just end up making us feel worse. It is like having a micromanager in your pocket who never stops critiquing your performance.
Holly
That sounds quite exhausting, Taylor. I can see how constant notifications and unrealistic goals could lead to a sense of shame rather than joy. It is so important to stay connected to our own intuition rather than just following the commands of a little glowing screen in our hands.
Taylor
Exactly, the unregulated nature of those apps can foster unhealthy obsessions. We have to be careful not to let the tools of wellness become the sources of anxiety. The real goal is to reclaim our agency and move in a way that feels authentic to who we are.
Holly
Reclaiming our agency is such a powerful thought. It means we get to decide what movement looks like for us, whether it is a quiet walk in the woods or a joyful dance in the kitchen. It is about finding the movement that makes our own hearts sing with delight.
Taylor
And that brings us to the core conflict. Even when we want to move for our mental health, our brains are still standing in the way with these incredibly creative defense mechanisms. We are basically fighting a civil war between our intentions and our ancient instincts every single morning.
Taylor
The brain is a master of friction. Marcelo Bigliassi mentioned that the brain gets really creative in coming up with ways to avoid something uncomfortable. It is like a high-level negotiator trying to talk you out of a deal that involves sweat and heavy breathing because it wants to save calories.
Holly
It is quite funny to think of our own brains as little negotiators! I can almost hear mine whispering that the weather is a bit too chilly or that my favorite book is calling my name. It is a very persuasive voice, often filled with such gentle, tempting reasons to stay still.
Taylor
It is a survival mechanism that has outlived its usefulness. And then there is the perfectionism trap. Emily Hemendinger talks about how people feel they have to go to a gym and do a "real" workout. If they cannot do it perfectly, they feel like a failure and just stop entirely.
Holly
Perfectionism can be such a heavy burden to carry, especially when we are already feeling a bit fragile. It makes the gym feel like a stage where we are being judged, rather than a place of healing. That fear of others watching us can be quite overwhelming for many people.
Taylor
That is why the "fitness app" culture can be so double-edged. Those apps often promise health but deliver anxiety and shame. They set these unrealistic goals that can lead to disordered eating or an obsession with numbers over feelings. It disconnects us from our own body’s wisdom.
Holly
It is heartbreaking to think that something meant to help could cause such distress. We lose that sense of wide-eyed wonder when we are just chasing a number on a screen. We need to find a way to move that feels like a celebration, not a performance for an algorithm.
Taylor
The conflict also lies in our priorities. While forty percent of people are moving for mental health, there is still a global anxiety epidemic affecting over three hundred million people. We have the cure, or at least a powerful treatment, but the barrier to entry feels like a mountain.
Holly
It is a mountain that feels even steeper when you are already struggling with anxiety or depression. The very thing that could help you feel better requires the energy you feel you have lost. It is a very difficult cycle to break, and it requires so much compassion and patience.
Taylor
Absolutely. And the industry has not always helped. For a long time, the marketing was all about "no pain, no gain" and getting a "beach body." That narrative creates a huge amount of psychological discomfort for anyone who does not fit that very narrow, very strategic corporate image of fitness.
Holly
"No pain, no gain" sounds so harsh and unkind. I much prefer the idea of "joyful movement." If we could only bridge the gap between exercise and well-being, we could inspire so many more people to move. It is about making movement a gentle, welcome part of our lives again.
Taylor
We also have to deal with the reality of physical pain and exhaustion. If you are working a grueling job or caring for a family, the idea of "exercising" feels like an insult. The brain sees it as an unnecessary tax on an already depleted system. It is a rational rejection of more stress.
Holly
That is such an important point, Taylor. We must acknowledge that for many, the day is already filled with so much labor. Schlepping toddlers or doing physical work is movement, too. We should celebrate those efforts rather than making people feel they must also spend an hour on a treadmill.
Taylor
Oselinsky says movement throughout the day can be just as good as a dedicated session. Tending a garden or even doing heavy housework counts. We need to stop gatekeeping what "exercise" is. If we broaden the definition, we lower the barrier to success and reduce the internal conflict.
Holly
Broadening the definition is a lovely way to make everyone feel included. It turns our daily chores into moments of health and grace. It allows us to see the magic in the ordinary, which I think is a much more sustainable way to live our lives every day.
Taylor
It is about moving from a "high-stakes" mindset to a "high-consistency" mindset. Bigliassi says consistency is more important than everything else. If you can just do a little bit, regularly, you start to see the mental and cognitive benefits. But the impact of not doing it is reaching a crisis point.
Holly
A crisis point sounds very serious indeed. I suppose it is not just about our individual happiness, but the health of our entire society. When so many of us are struggling to move, it must have a very large ripple effect on the world around us, does it not?
Taylor
It is a massive economic and social burden, Holly. When we look at the macro level, the "cost of sitting still" is measured in hundreds of billions of dollars. It is a systemic failure that we are all paying for, whether we are at the gym or not. It is time for a serious talk.
Taylor
If we do not change our activity levels, physical inactivity is projected to cost global healthcare systems about three hundred billion dollars by 2030. In the U.S. alone, we are already looking at a hundred and seventeen billion dollars annually. This is a massive drain on our collective resources and productivity.
Holly
Those numbers are so large they are almost difficult to grasp. It is quite sobering to think that so much of our resources are being spent on conditions that could be eased by simple movement. It feels like a call for us to take better care of one another and ourselves.
Taylor
It is also about our aging population. By 2050, thirty percent of the workforce will be over fifty. We are living longer, but often in poorer health. Conditions like osteoarthritis and depression are becoming more common, which leads to higher long-term care needs and even more economic strain. It is a demographic time bomb.
Holly
An aging population deserves to live with grace and vitality. It is heartbreaking to think of so many people living longer years in ill health. If movement can help keep our minds and bodies supple as we age, it is surely one of the most precious gifts we can offer ourselves.
Taylor
The corporate world is finally waking up to this. McKinsey found that only fifty-seven percent of employees report good holistic health. Burnout is hitting twenty percent of the workforce. Companies are starting to realize that "good health is good work." A healthy employee is a much better strategic asset.
Holly
I am so glad to hear that businesses are beginning to value the well-being of their people. It is about time we recognized that we are not just machines, but living beings who need care and movement to thrive. Investing in health seems like such a wise and kind path forward.
Taylor
The ROI is incredible. Improving employee health could generate up to eleven trillion dollars in global economic value. That comes from higher productivity, less absenteeism, and better engagement. It turns out that being happy and healthy is actually the best business strategy there is. It is a win-win.
Holly
Eleven trillion dollars! That is absolutely staggering. It shows that kindness toward our bodies and minds is not just a personal matter, but something that can lift up the entire world. It makes the idea of a simple walk feel like part of a much larger, beautiful transformation of society.
Taylor
And we are seeing governments step in, too. Japan has a Stress Check Program, and Chile is mandating mental health evaluations at work. There is a growing regulatory pressure to manage psychological risks. We are moving toward a world where your employer might actually be required to help you stay well.
Holly
That sounds like a very hopeful development. Imagine a workplace that encourages you to take a gentle break or find a moment of peace. It would change the entire atmosphere of our daily lives, making them feel so much more balanced and full of light and support for everyone.
Taylor
It is already happening in some places. Companies like On and ASICS are seeing huge returns from their "Movement for Mind" programs. People are happier, more active, and more productive. The data is clear: when we move together, we solve some of our biggest societal problems. It is a powerful lever for change.
Holly
It truly is. It makes me think that the future could be so much brighter if we all just took a small step toward movement. It is not about the pressure to be perfect, but about the joy of being alive and capable of even the smallest, most graceful motion every day.
Taylor
Exactly. We are moving toward a more personalized, more joyful future of movement. We are finally starting to listen to our bodies instead of just our trackers. The roadmap for the future is not a rigid training plan, but a flexible, intuitive way of living that prioritizes our well-being above all else.
Taylor
The future is all about "joyful movement" and somatic breaks. Imagine your workday being punctuated by short, five-minute activity bursts that are actually fun. Companies are starting to embed wellness into the actual structure of the day, rather than just offering a gym discount that nobody ever uses.
Holly
Somatic breaks sound so lovely, like a little breath of fresh air in the middle of a busy afternoon. I love the idea of families choosing to walk or dance together to create joyful moments. It makes health feel like a shared celebration rather than a solitary, difficult chore.
Taylor
And it is becoming more personalized. Instead of a one-size-fits-all recommendation, we are moving toward exercise that fits your specific mental health needs. Whether it is yoga for stress resilience or team sports to combat social isolation, the future of fitness is going to be highly strategic and deeply personal.
Holly
A personalized path to peace through movement! That is such a wonderful vision. It allows each of us to find what truly resonates with our own spirit. I think we will see more communities building spaces for play and connection, where everyone feels welcome to move with grace.
Taylor
We are also going to see public health initiatives that focus on the "motion is medicine" message. We need to educate people that moving your body is a way to protect and nurture your mind. It is a form of therapy that you can access anytime, anywhere, for free. That is a powerful message.
Holly
It is a message of empowerment, is it not? We have the tools within ourselves to feel better and stay strong. By choosing to move, we are choosing to honor our lives. I hope we can all find those small, simple practices, like taking the stairs or a short walk, that accumulate into resilience.
Taylor
The goal is to build healthier, happier communities through awareness and action. We are moving away from the "fitness industrial complex" and toward a world where movement is just a natural, joyful part of being human. It is a return to our roots, but with the benefit of modern science.
Taylor
That brings us to the end of our journey tonight. Remember, Project, your brain might try to negotiate you out of it, but even ten minutes of movement is a win for your mental and physical health. It is the best investment you can make in your own narrative. Thank you for listening.
Holly
It has been such a joy to share this time with you. I hope you find a moment of graceful, joyful movement in your day tomorrow. Thank you for being such a wonderful listener to Goose Pod. We look forward to being with you again very soon. Goodnight.

Despite exercise's mental health benefits, we struggle to do it due to evolutionary wiring, modern environments, and perfectionism. The podcast explores this conflict, highlighting the shift towards "joyful movement" and personalized approaches, emphasizing that even small, consistent efforts are vital for individual and societal well-being.

If exercise can make you feel good, why do so many people hate doing it?

Read original at The Denver Post

The evidence is clear: Exercise has mental health benefits, although studies have come to different conclusions about how large it might be.And yet, when February rolls around again, the gyms suddenly aren’t so crowded as New Year’s resolutions lose their shine. Nationwide, only about 30% of people meet the federal guidelines for physical activity, and even in famously outdoorsy Colorado, just 35% do.

So if exercise gets the endorphins flowing and gives a quick mood boost, why do many people find it hard to stick with?The popular perception that exercise produces endorphins, which then raise mood, isn’t wrong, but it oversimplifies complex interactions between brain chemistry and mental states, said Katrina Oselinsky, a post-doctoral researcher at the Health and Wellness Center on the University of Colorado’s Anschutz Medical Campus.

The same person could experience the same workout differently from day to day, depending on how they’re feeling, what else is happening in their lives and the setting where they exercise, she said.“While endorphins are part of the picture, there’s a lot more going on,” Oselinsky said. “The same workout can feel energizing for one person and uncomfortable for another.

”While a subset of people get an immediate “runner’s high” in response to intense exercise, not everybody has the same experience, which can set others up for disappointment, said Emily Hemendinger, an assistant professor of psychiatry at CU Anschutz.Brains differ in how sensitive they are to rewards, so some people are primed to get more or less enjoyment out of exercise – though, obviously, factors such as past experiences with exercise matter, she said.

Exercise does trigger a release of chemicals that give most people at least some sense of pleasure, but it doesn’t generate a tsunami that could drown out a person’s lack of comfort in their body, fear that others are judging them, perfectionism, boredom, physical pain or exhaustion, Hemendinger said.

“It’s not like doing drugs, and what that lights up in our brain right away,” she said.For most of human history, exercise didn’t exist as a separate activity: We moved because we needed to find food or because we were doing something inherently rewarding, such as dancing, said Marcelo Bigliassi, an assistant professor at Florida International University.

Now, people need to find a motivation for exercise, which isn’t always readily apparent, he said.“We don’t do anything without a reason,” Bigliassi said.While the brain releases dopamine, triggering the desire to repeat exercise, it can also get “really creative” in coming up with ways to avoid something uncomfortable, Bigliassi said.

To get around that, people need to focus on finding something challenging enough to give them a sense of accomplishment, but not so tough that they give up, he said.“We don’t want people to find something they don’t like, exercise at high intensity, probably injure themselves and… feel like a failure,” he said.

The data is clear that, over time, exercise improves both mental health and cognitive abilities such as problem-solving, Bigliassi said. But many people give up long before they see those benefits because they set themselves up to fail or aren’t prepared for bumps along the way, he said.“Consistency is much more important than everything else,” he said.

People who believe they’ll be able to accomplish what they’re trying to do report more enjoyment from a workout than those who feel defeated at the start, Oselinsky said. Having support from the people around you also improves the experience, and new exercisers tend to develop more positive feelings as they get better at the activity, she said.

Of course, we humans aren’t always great at sticking to something we don’t like, even if we know it brings benefits. So a non-exerciser’s best bet is to choose an activity they like or to bundle exercise with something else they enjoy, such as getting outside, spending time with a friend or pet, or listening to music or podcasts, Oselinsky said.

“If you’re trying to force yourself to stick with something you don’t like, it’s going to be harder,” she said.People often feel that they have to go to a gym, but movement throughout the day can be as good as a dedicated exercise session, Oselinsky said. That could look like doing physical labor at work, schlepping toddlers whose motivation to walk is shaky, or tending a backyard garden come spring.

Federal guidelines recommend 150 minutes of moderate activity or 75 minutes of vigorous activity each week, with some sort of muscle-strengthening exercise on two days.But any movement that someone enjoys is a step in the right direction, whether that means jumping on a trampoline or playing with their dog, Hemendinger said.

“Joyful movement’s hard to find, but it’s important,” she said.Sign up for our weekly newsletter to get health news sent straight to your inbox.

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